Here is the beginning for you…..”There is a great mystery behind every one of our lives, the great human mystery of why are
we here sharing this miraculous planet? Where did we come from? For the adopted child
the mystery is even greater because they have two active mysteries. The existential one all
humans share about our cosmic origins and purpose and then the very real, very literal
mystery of where did I come from? And why did my birth parents give me away? These
mysteries inspire many powerful feelings but for the adopted child, the pre-eminent feeling
is often grief.
As an Adoption professional and former foster-adopt child, I want to inspire parents to
understand how important “the act of joining with their child’s grief” is. As scary as it
seems, it will actually be very liberating. This liberation will not only bring joy to the parents
but to the child as well. And it is through joy that the hormone for bonding, oxcytocin, is
released into the cells of the body, which can restructure the brain and increase the desire
for attachment. The first step toward honest attachment is for the parent to “feel” and
accept the child’s grief and thus allow the child to “feel felt” at the cellular level where
bonding occurs. After all, we all feel good about ourselves when our experiences are
validated, supported and our fears reassured….”
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